Many, many years ago, in a galaxy far, far away, I was set up on a blind date by my best friend. I had returned to North Shore for the summer from my freshman year at college and was spending my days bored and lonely since I didn’t own a car, my mother was a full-time social worker, and my older sisters had married.
“Want to go on a blind double date with me and my boyfriend?” Sally asked. I’d never been on a blind date and was still in casual contact with guys from school. So, I said no, no, no.
Yes.
Sally’s boyfriend and his best friend, classmates at the U.S. Naval Academy, were to pick us up one evening in late May when the pink tulips were past their prime and tiny golden trumpets of honeysuckle sweetened the air. We gazed at the street in anticipation from the picture window in Sally’s green rancher, just across the cul-de-sac from my brick and white clapboard house on the hill. The boys were taking us to a party in historic Annapolis.
I had turned 19 a few weeks before, and our plans for the evening felt a bit foreign because the gathering was at a young married couple’s apartment. I didn’t even know anyone married. It felt weird. But the couple was associated with the Naval Academy’s sailing team, on which both our dates competed. In fact, later that summer, they were racing the Academy’s 73-foot ketch, Jubilee III, from Bermuda to Spain, so the party hosts felt like chaperones in a sense. Jubilee would hit a submerged rock as they crossed the finish in that race, punching a hole through the lead ballast of the keel and nearly bringing the mast down. A panicked spectator fleet would scatter, the victorious American flag still unfurled. Yet the team would recover to finish First in Class.
But that would be a later chapter, and this is the prologue. All I knew as the guys pulled up was that my date was the winsome boy with blue eyes. He drove. Our hosts’ small apartment was packed with girls like Sally and me, hair long and loose, in sandals and sundresses, and guys like our dates, looking conspicuously conservative in an anti-miliary era of political protests.
We sat on the carpet. My date made me laugh, which, truth be told, I find irresistible in a man, in a friend, and in pretty much anyone. But when he mentioned an experiment he’d just completed for his final class in Electrical Engineering II, I stopped laughing and leaned in.
He was curious about the power of intention, he said, about whether there was such a thing and whether or not it could be measured. Could intention, which is just a thought, be communicated without language or touch?
If there is anything I find more compelling than a sense of humor, it’s innate curiosity and the creativity to turn a boring assignment into a fascinating one. I briefly wondered how many weeks there were until that transatlantic race to Spain.
To test his hypothesis that intention is a vibration that can be transmitted without a conductor, my date had wired two electrodes to a rubber plant in the basement lab of Michelson Hall. The electrodes were connected to a Wheat Stone Bridge Circuit and a strip chart recorder.
We had placed our drinks on the rustic oak coffee table by then, and I scooted closer to hear him describe what happened next over the bubble of conversing partygoers and the harmony of Crosby, Stills, Nash, and Young.
When he entered the lab and turned on the lights, as expected, the plant reacted modestly on the strip chart readout. But when he picked up a pair of scissors then cut into a leaf, the plant reacted wildly, as if distressed, or in pain.
There were many obvious reasons for this—the hydrostatic pressure in the molecules of the leaf had been disrupted for one thing, so this result was inconclusive, “But here’s the interesting part,” my date said, just as I thought, you’re the interesting part.
“The next day, I went to the lab, picked up the scissors, and just imagined cutting into the leaf, and the recording on the strip chart went crazy, off the charts.” He smiled at me with raised brows, letting me come to my own conclusions, which I did. I smiled back.
Then I married him.
This happened so many years ago, in a galaxy so far away that only our original intention still shines, carried to the present at the speed of light from a star that no longer exists. But I’ve come to believe that intention, which is just a thought, does carry an energy the recipient can feel. Is it true?
I began writing this column two years ago today. That’s 104 columns since the day that we met. My intention? To share stories about me that end in you, because in reality, there is only us.
Happy Anniversary, beloveds. Happy Anniversary.
Laura J. Oliver is an award-winning developmental book editor and writing coach who has taught writing at the University of Maryland and St. John’s College. She is the author of The Story Within (Penguin Random House). Co-creator of The Writing Intensive at St. John’s College, she is the recipient of a Maryland State Arts Council Individual Artist Award in Fiction, an Anne Arundel County Arts Council Literary Arts Award winner, a two-time Glimmer Train Short Fiction finalist, and her work has been nominated for a Pushcart Prize. Her website can be found here.
Mark Laurent Pellerin says
I have not looked so forward to Sunday afternoon as I have with your work. THANK YOU for all you’ve done for me and us!
Laura J Oliver says
Thanks for so faithfully reading, Mark! Lovely to spend a bit of Sunday afternoons together.
Nancy Prendergast says
Happy Anniversary, Laura! 104 columns…Yikes! What an accomplishment. I’ve loved every column that I’ve read which is most of them since I keep them if I’m traveling or am up to my eyeballs with Grandma duties.
I’m impressed with blind date’s simple experiment with the rubber plant. I’m glad you were also.
Laura J Oliver says
Thanks, Nancy. It’s interesting the things that draw us together, isn’t it? I’m sure you have stories in kind. Thanks for writing!
Susan Baker says
Wow! I’m smiling! What a terrific story and fascinating example of intention!
Laura J Oliver says
Thanks, Susan. I love that you are smiling. That was my intention. 🙂 Thanks for reading!
Jean Baker says
I had a similar experience. The date was arranged by his fraternity brother and my nursing school class mate, who decided that we were a good match. We were both quite reluctant. I told him that I had to be back at the nursing dorm by 10 PM when I really had permission to sign in by 1AM. After attending my May senior spring dance, I mentioned that we were invited to a post dance party and I really had permission to remain out until 1AM.
The rest is history. He had previously enlisted in the Navy snd was accepted to attend the Navy flight training program. He left in August. I was accepted to attend Syracuse University to continue my nursing education. I departed in early September. We kept in touch regularly by phone and letters. I accepted a diamond while we both hom for the Christmas holidays. We were married in August that same year.
This coming August , we will celebrate our 65th wedding anniversary.
Laura J Oliver says
65th Anniversary? Wow, Jean. I’m so happy for you. You intended to love each other for a lifetime and you have.
Lyn Banghart says
Happy Anniversary, Laura!
Laura J Oliver says
Thank you, Lyn! And thanks for reading!
Ursula Milone says
Just Beautiful! As always! Happy Anniversary. Ursula Milone
Laura J Oliver says
Thank you Ursula!