Dear David,
I had no idea that you would have such an emotional reaction to my POV on the Colorado shootings, and had I known I would without hesitation have chosen a different topic. But having written it without such knowledge, I stand behind what I wrote, and I have added links to studies supporting my views. Perhaps your feelings have prevented you from reading what I actually wrote, and led you to paraphrase my article in a misleading way. You claim I stated “that one of the murderers, who had been questioning his gender identity at the time of the crime, was the result of our society ‘brainwashing teens into gender dysphoria.’” Only the last 5 words are mine.
If you are implying that I think all teens confused about their gender are potential mass murderers, I am offended more by your lack of respect for my intelligence than anything else. Having expressed my outrage more than once at suggestions that all “white nationalists” are mass murderers, I am not likely to make the same mistake in causality myself.
Do I think that the massive propaganda machine legitimizing the desire to change sex is harmful, and that it added to the impulses that made this boy and girl into killers? Indeed, I do. Capable researchers have published studies that reveal a link between peer and social media pressure and gender dysphoria. That is a matter of fact to be discussed not suppressed.
You clearly disagree with me that great harm is done by teaching that changing one’s physical sex is healthy and therapeutic. That is no reason to prevent me from offering my opinion, which has its own scientific support, any more than you would prevent me from stating my opinion that the scientific basis for claims of imminent climate catastrophe is weak.
Moreover, I never said or thought that the shooters were themselves evil, for their gender confusion or for their murderous intentions. That is not for me to judge.
What I actually wrote is: “The clear evil is in the politicians, “educators,” fashionable psychologists and institutions that are brainwashing teens into gender dysphoria. Teenagers, confused by hormones, immaturity and no doubt family and social pain, are being told that their all too common emotional distress comes from being the wrong sex and that they can solve their problems by changing their dress, bathroom access or biology. It doesn’t work, and creates the even worse problems seen in this event.” By deleting my column, you made it impossible for readers to judge my meaning for themselves.
What I identified as evil are the institutions telling teens that their wishes to have been born with a different biology are healthy and need to be fulfilled. I am convinced that adding the suggestion that “you are the wrong sex” to the sometimes overwhelming stress of puberty and the mismatched timing of hormonal and intellectual development can make life more than a teen can handle. Some choose suicide, many suffer impaired mental health, and in this case two chose mass murder. Perhaps if I had written that rather than the shorter “creates the even worse problems seen in this event” you would have understood me better.
What I find most strange is where you draw the line on what is permissible speech. I’m sorry, this is not even close to “shouting fire in a crowded theater.” In Canada or the Netherlands, I realize, I could be put in jail for “hate speech” for writing this column. That is one reason why I am so thankful to live in the USA.
You say that my words were doing harm. In my opinion, being silent on the tragic consequences of driving our youth into confusion about gender also does immense harm. The question is not what is comfortable but what is true. Though truth may be one, agreement on what is true only comes from listening to statements that cause discomfort. Your and some readers’ attacks on me certainly hurt my feelings, but the reassurance of others that my column was reasonable comforted me.
Your standard seems to be the same “safe space” guarantee that has become notorious on campuses. Perhaps you should add a “trigger warning” to my Points of View. I have become accustomed to prejudice based on my race, gender and age, to insults directed at my religion, and to lies about what I have said and done. I did not and do not expect protection from any of this. Why do we accept the idea that some are so privileged that they should hear nothing but praise?
I am also distressed and puzzled, not for myself but for the readers of the Spy, by your statements about what the Spy supports. Do you mean to say that after suggesting I write about candidate Buttigieg’s appeal to Christianity to support his homosexual lifestyle, you would censor me if I stated my belief that marriage is an institution (or sacrament) ordained by God to unite a man and a woman for life? That is what is said in the Catechism of the Catholic Church and was the universal teaching of Christian churches for almost two thousand years, but it is also termed hate speech in many venues. You should clarify where censorship starts in the Spy.
Unless you do intend to silence all views but your own on these issues and to leave standing the regrettable charge that I am a purveyor of hate speech, I hope you will publish this response to your attacks on me in full.
Respectfully,
David Montgomery
Carol Voyles says
Thank you for clarifying your position.
You believe that “legitimizing the desire to change sex is harmful,” psychologists are “brainwashing teens,” changing sex “doesn’t work,” and only a man and woman should marry, no matter their reality.
It would go a long way if you were to admit that you have these opinions, but also realize that you are in no position to make these judgments..
Helen Chappell says
What Carol said times 100. No room for homophobes here.
Jim Franke says
“In this month’s issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, we and our fellow researchers provide empirical evidence that homophobia can result, at least in part, from the suppression of same-sex desire.”
https://www.nytimes.com/2012/04/29/opinion/sunday/homophobic-maybe-youre-gay.html?_r=0
Laurie Powers says
“…being silent on the tragic consequences of driving our youth into confusion about gender…”
Mr. Montgomery, you are doing it again and you don’t get it.
“I have become accustomed to prejudice based on my race, gender and age.”
“Why do we accept the idea that some are so privileged that they should hear nothing but praise?”
You are a straight, past-middle-age, white man, correct? I really don’t think you understand.
Howard Freedlander says
Who and what are the “fashionable psychologists and institutions ‘ that are “brainwashing teams into gender dysphoria?” To understand your thinking, must we subscribe to your characterization of teenagers as being vulnerable to what you consider manipulation, rather than acknowledging longtime discomfort on the part of many teenagers and adults with their birth gender? I question your thinking; as much as I value free speech, I support Dave Wheelan’s prerogative to use or not use what we columnists submit if he believes our opinions are harmful to civil discourse, as he perceives it. You, of course, have the right to disagree, as you did.
Marcia Libby says
I may or may not agree, but I appreciate seeing different opinions, unlike the Washington Post which rams anti Trump and anti conservatism down your throat. You can disagree with Mr. Montgomery, but he does have the right to his opinions. If you don’t want to read his column, don’t. But allow others who’s ideas may be different than yours, to do so.
S. D. Swan says
Most people gravitate toward and search out evidence to back up their predisposed beliefs and feelings. (And I’m sure I can find reliable research to back me up 😉 What is gained by the airing of emotional reactions masquerading as authority? Answering that question is the job and responsibility of the editor.
Jim Franke says
“People demand freedom of speech as a compensation for the freedom of thought which they seldom use. ”
Soren Kierkegaard